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Thoughts are my own. Devoutly Catholic, without apologies and yes, my nickname is "Cookie."

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Book Review: Fatima, The Apparition that Changed the World (Click here to Read More>>)

10/22/2017

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My family has a special devotion to Our Lady under many titles. Fatima, The Apparition that Changed the World, does a beautiful job of exploring one of her most important messages to us as, Our Lady of Fatima, based on the 1917 apparitions in Fatima, Portugal. Jean M. Heimann has done an incredible job of spelling out many of the important components regarding this apparition and the “miracle of the sun” witnessed there in October 1917.
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I didn’t have to read far to recognize the unique way this book is laid out. A stunning blend of photographs and information, presented in an easy-to-read format. I loved being able to quickly understand the timeline of the apparitions, how different popes influenced the dissemination of information, and the history surrounding the events and people during and after the Fatima apparitions. Our Lady’s message to us is clear, we do offend the Lord when we ignore Him or choose sinful behavior over things that bring us closer to him. We must repent and return to loving the Lord Jesus with our whole hearts.

I look forward to rereading this book and using it as a resource in catechesis. I would highly recommend this book to anyone with an eye for art, history or Catholic teaching.
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An Open Letter to my Godchildren

9/27/2017

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Dear Godkids,

I wanted to reach out and apologize, because I am not the best Godmother in the world. There are quite a few of you and sometimes I am late with birthday or Christmas gifts, I have even forgotten a birthday or so along the way. I don’t keep in contact as much as I should with phone calls or texts.

However, I wanted you to know that you are never far from my thoughts and absolutely always in my prayers. I do see on social media when you have a new challenge or a new joy. I pray for your success constantly and especially for you to stay close to Christ, His Church and the Sacraments! You are included every day when I attend Mass, in my Rosary and other prayers and I often make small sacrifices and give them to Jesus, through Mary on your behalf.

I love you every day! I’m here if you need me. I try to be a good example to you and I will never stop being proud of you.

Please forgive me shortcomings and know that I love you forever.

God bless,


Your Godmother- Aunt Cookie

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Journey of Hope Conference this Week

7/30/2017

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If you are Catholic, divorced and in need of help or healing, please consider attending the Journey of Hope Conference this week. There you will find information, inspiration and fellowship.

For more information go to: www.journeyofhopeconference.com.

If unable to attend the conference, please consider books and parish programs by Lisa Duffy, Rose Sweet and my own little book, The Three Things Divorced Catholics Need to Know.

I will be praying for all of you and for the success of the conference!

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Discussing Need for Annulment with Your Ex-spouse.

5/9/2017

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Approaching your Ex-Spouse for an Annulment

This is where it gets tricky; you desire an annulment*, but your ex tells you that it's "Catholic divorce," or that your children will be illegitimate! Painful and untrue words.

First, pray! Consider a novena (my favorite is Our Lady Undoer of Knots) to help till the spiritual soil for this conversation.

Examine your own conscience. Do you need to ask for forgiveness from your ex? Explain (charitably) your choices? Own your part in the dissolution of the marriage? Do you need to go to confession before this conversation takes place.

Third, be generous of heart. Although the marriage has ended, both of you should still be pursuing a journey of Faith. Perhaps you still need to parent together?

Divorce tends to be reactive, can you move the relationship to a positive place by being proactive?

Explain what an annulment is NOT!

It does not say that you were never legally married, nor does it make the children illegitimate. It is not a Catholic divorce.

Explain what an annulment is. The annulment process helps you explore the understanding you had of what makes a valid sacramental marriage at the time of your wedding. During the process an investigation of if you had enough information and/or ability to carry out those sacramental promises. It is an opportunity to look at what went wrong, ineffective patterns and it helps you begin to identify areas that need improvement in your relationships. I found it helpful to realize that we were not fully informed about what we needed to do (before marriage) in order to have a healthy, sacramental union. It allowed me to stop blaming myself and my ex and to move forward with new understanding and wisdom. It can be a very healing process.

Give it time. All the changes that go along with a divorce can be overwhelming. Be as gentle as you can in approaching the subject of annulment. Let your ex know that you are not saying that they did not matter or that your marriage wasn't important to you, rather you want both of you to move on in a positive way to a grace-filled future.

*Remember, not all divorced Catholics who apply for an annulment will be granted one. Discuss your specific situation with your priest.

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What does the Church really teach about divorce?

5/9/2017

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What does Church teach about Divorce?

The short answer is that divorce should not exist according, not just to the Catholic Church, but from the words of Christ on marriage. “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery.”Matt 19:9 (all three synoptic Gospels mention this teaching)

However, the Catholic Church, under the guidance of the Holy Spirit, does not look at divorce just as a legal matter, but as a sacramental one. A valid Catholic marriage must be entered into freely, faithfully, be open to life and with the expectance of permanence! If these elements are not present at the time the marriage takes place, the marriage itself may not be a valid sacramental union.  (This is what the tribunal will look at if considering annulment.)

But it is important to note, that there are other choices besides annulment. Living a chaste life, outside of another relationship, is a choice.  Even separating (possibly legally divorcing), but continuing to live out your marriage vows (though separate) is another choice.

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Where Can a Divorced Catholic Find Help?

5/9/2017

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Where can a divorced person start to find help?

Discuss situation with your priest; effective pastoral care will be nurtured if we are willing to discuss our pain, fears, frustrations and even needs.

Make choices about your specific situation.

Spend time wisely.

Begin annulment process if appropriate.

Let others know of your needs.

Be involved!

 

 


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Who can receive the Eucharist following a divorce?

5/9/2017

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Who can receive Communion?

Easy answer: Anyone living in a state of grace, but I think that this question is the wrong question. I think there is a lot of misinformation about the Eucharist in general. Receiving the Eucharist is not a prize, it is a serious commitment to our belief in the Body, Blood, Soul and Divinity of Jesus Christ present there.  It is a tangible sign of God’s covenant with us. I think the question should be; Do I understand the truth found in the Eucharist and have I discussed my current situation with a priest?

For more information on this topic read The Three Things Divorced Catholics Need to Know! Available at OSV.com, Amazon or ask for it at your local Catholic or neighborhood bookstore!

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I Wish There Was Something Else I Could Call Him

4/28/2017

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Ex-Spouse? Really? So what does that make my husband...my current spouse? That implies that I will discard him for a future spouse. My earlier marriage was declared sacramentally invalid and annulled. In a sense, though legal, it was not a marriage in the way the Catholic Church defines marriage.

I have been married to my husband for almost thirty years, in my heart, he is truly my one, true love, my sacramental spouse. In the spirit and understanding of the sacrament of matrimony, I have full intention of being his wife 'Until death do us part."

I would love to see a change in our speech to reflect that significance accurately. Perhaps my ex could be referred to as my non-sacramental spouse and my husband as my sacramental spouse? I know it's just language, but I really wish the language could reflect what is in my heart and supported by church teaching.

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I Chose Barabbas

4/14/2017

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It seems so illogical that when Pilate offered to free Jesus or Barabbas, the crowd would choose Barabbas. He was a rebel, a murder and Jesus was, well, what? A threat, a lunatic, a liar, no-The Lord.

How many times do I choose Barabbas over Christ? Every time I chose sin, or personal preference- then I am choosing Barabbas. Each time I am selfish or glamorize things of this world, I choose Barabbas. When I choose to go along with the crowd, rather than to stand up for what is right, I choose Barabbas.

Forgive me, Lord. Help me to choose you today and always.

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Getting Out of Victim Mentality

4/11/2017

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How could he do that to me? I didn't deserve it! I didn't do anything wrong.

Those things can all be true and even justified, but it is very easy to stay 'stuck' in a victim mentality. When we have been hurt or wronged in some way it is normal to ruminate on the injury: What that person said. What you wished you'd said. How much you hurt. How you were right and they were wrong!

Unfortunately, all that focus on self makes it difficult to remember others. I heard a beautiful testimony recently by Immaculee Ilibagiza, a survivor of the Rawandan genocide. She stated that while in a refugee camp, following the slaughter of her family, she looked around and saw others in need. People who were in worse shape than she was. She chose to go to them and minister to them in any way she could. While it did not eliminate her grief, it gave her a focus that was not on her own sadness. In this way, she lessened her own victimhood and changed her own situation. There is a lesson of hope for all of us in her example; change your focus and your heart will change too.

God bless!

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